Sunday, November 21, 2010

A weekend at home

This was the first weekend home since winning the title, and it was great sleeping in my own bed for at least 4 hours each night.

Started Friday at the Clark Library, part of the UCLA campus attending a symposium on the Decadent period before and after Oscar Wilde.  Lovely place, interesting topic and a chance to introduce Mistress Serene to an academic audience.  Mr. Wilde and his contemporaries was quite the Dandy or todays Metrosexual.  Pushing the envelope of their time with the concept of aesthetic values.   I'm a dyed in the wool hedonist, so this speaks to me and I enjoy sitting in the comfort and beauty of knowledge and of course wealth.


Friday evening was a continuance in the indulgence of pleasure with a themed party at Lair De Sade.  Princess of Petite Princess of Pain is the host for the Venus Night at the Lair.  A night for Female Dominants to order about subs and slaves of both sexes for play.  Friday's party theme was foot fetish and it brought out the largest attendance to date for a Venus night.   Princess has a motto "Everyone gets played with unless you are an asshole."   The event was a female Shangrila, every chair in the main dungeon sat a woman with her foot being caressed, kissed, suckled and massaged.  The vibe was astounding and the first time I have recalled a party that a woman's pleasure was tantamount.

Later on the evening I gave a Bastanado scene to a masochist but the estrogen levels were so high many just went home and fucked!  Bravo Princess!

But now the weekend is really here, and Saturday began with a Insights workshop on the Power of Sex Play at the Lair insightful and I will post about it later.  But then we drove down to Santa Ana for the Debut of the Rubenesque Burlesque show.  Voluptuous Entertainment is the creators of this bawdy, fun show full of beautiful, hot and very sexy women.  I wanted to work on my Sophie Tucker jokes and join them.  But alas no flash photography was allowed so all I could do was snap my old iPhone to get these blurry shots:



Now it's Sunday, I've got emails to respond to, events to plan and a short Beginner BDSM class to prepare for this evening.

Get out and play people, this life is not a dress rehearsal.

Best regards,

Serene
Southern California Leather Woman 2010-11

Saturday, November 13, 2010

The Year Ahead

Well there's nothing like an online interview to make me feel like a politician; and I am reminded that it's time to put out.  That is, on my campaign promises.

My dates are not confirmed yet but here are the plans:

Three events:

A Social - An afternoon formal tea - Erotic Art, an American style Tea with delightfully trained servants.  Imported teas and beautiful food. Raffles and of course entertainment. Just so we can dress up and be our kinky, girly selves.

Education - A Domina Panel,  I've come to admire several professional Domina's whom have effectively managed their passions, careers, families, vanilla and kink communities with grace and professionalism.  They make me want to be a better woman, and I believe we can all learn something from their skills, stories and histories.  Women's History Month is March, and the Stockroom has graciously agreed to host.

Party - With my Sash Sistahs, let's kink it out DESIRE style.  This event is for Radical and Wicked Women and smart men.  Ladies - this party will require you bring and leave behind a piece of your clothing or memorabilia for the Women's History Project of the Leather Archives Museum in Chicago.  A night to honor Sappho, with wine, song. (She may have come from Lesbos, but don't forget she was bi!) And so is the party.

In between the parties, I'm looking forward to hitting munches, workshops and parties all over So Cal.  If something cool is going on, please tell me, I don't want to miss it!

Serene

Monday, November 8, 2010

My name


I've was asked recently about how to chose a name for real time play and meetings.  The questioner was concerned with the fear of exposure and the desire to express personality, sexual needs, play styles and goals.

Our Gay and Lesbian friends have had an advantage that the het's or bi's or closeted folks have not:  their coming out wasn't a name changer, it was additional descriptor to who they were.  (This short essay is no way attempting to address the painful and often forced way many have experienced in coming out.)
Our kink coming out is still may still be a distant looming challenge.  And given the risk of loss of family, job, there that is not have much in the way of legal, moral, academic, or sometimes kink community support.  The challenge of saying you are a sexual pioneer, radical, kinky or a pervert is a different than saying hi I'm Bill, and I'm gay.

When I say “Hi, I'm Serene”  I know it really doesn't say anything to people.  It does not identify my sexuality, play style, favorite position, lusts or self imposed ranking of title. It does identify however, a sentiment rarely expressed in a quick introduction, my goals in life, vanilla and kink. 

I chose my name based on a Aboriginal novel I read many years ago.  In the novel the adults in a tribe, as part of their coming of age rights, chose a name based on a personality trait they were striving for.  I first starting using alternative names (Venus) when going out to bars for the purpose of being a Cosmo Girl and getting my one night stand play on.  Then it was the aol chat rooms (don’t ask) and the hardcore message boards.

At the time I chose the name, identifying as a submissive (yes Virginia, I too started on my knees), trying to balance my balls-to-the-wall career climb in the alternative reality of living in our needy sexual bodies.  I embraced the challenge and committed to making it a life goal.  When the different monikers were added, i.e. Mistress, Sadist it amused me to mix the word visuals. 

So when choosing a name consider this piece, if you should be at a party and someone has to get your attention from across the room, will you remember the name you chose for yourself?  When they compare the online representation to the real thing, how accurate will it be?  The Internet gave us a false veil of protection, behind our screen names with no looking at the state of our affairs at home.  But today we are itching for play and real contact and sex, let’s not forget the sex! 

So if you felt like calling yourself “Bitchy Sadist”, “Killer Dom”, or “subnothing”, remember they are strong words that invite judgment without people getting the chance to know you.  

My goal is still to be authentic to myself.  Each day as I live more and more 'out', has been a lovely voyage of acceptance and openness to share my experiences.  National Coming Out Day and the It Gets Better Campaign remind that I can be Serene.  

Wednesday, November 3, 2010

Fantasy Desert

The great pleasure of writing is the feeling of your creative energy flowing through your body.  However, when you don't write, it's like being constipated.

So last night while having a friend over for drinks, I began to talk about writing, the kind of writing that stirs your soul, yeah literature.  And for a kinkling that identifies plenty with hot porn, barebacking sex, cock and ball torture and various other visually pain and pleasure inducing visuals I can't explain, I know that words can be formed to create a sentence that speaks much more than a picture.  This is not that writing.  I write my stories, my fantasy, rants etc.  Literature takes work and time, this is "I need to take a crap or I'll burst writing." Bare with me:

I will be riding in my first Pride Parade this weekend in Palm Springs.  I'm driving a human pony as a guest of the Pony and Critter Club here is LA.  My thoughts about the event have not been about waving to the crowds, but about a fantasy of the beasts of burden that will pull my cart.  There are some stellar female fillies in our community, but my eyes long for the sight of two matching blonde stallions.  I can imagine their brushed and oiled manes, while they bristle and shake at the bit in their mouths.  Drooling in anticipation of the mile ahead.  I coo to them, to be still, be patient, this is not a race today my beauties, we will save that for later.

Sitting in the cart, I can watch their matching sets of concave haunches flexing and swishing the blonde tail extended from the dock of the animal with tan leather straps.  The oiled and chiseled shoulders in the morning sun cause me to put on my sun glasses so I can enjoy the posturing of tension cased inside thin translucent skin.  Their These horses have not been long in the desert sun and the heat I will be have to be careful to not let the animals chaff in the heat.  

Their forelocks are long and bob and constantly twisting their heads to move the hair out of their eyes while waiting for the parade to begin.  My pets are anxious and I'm eager to finish so I can take the animals to our corral area around the pool where they can stretch and really use their thighs.

We begin the walk only after a young colt saunters over to my animals to give them a smell of her sex which to all of our noses is ready to be mounted.  The stallions pull at the reigns jerking their heads in the colts directions, lifting their noses to the wind to catch her whiff.

"No pets, this is not for you.  Stay focused on the steps ahead."  I flick the reign sharply to get their attention once more.

Ten minutes after the official start time, the coordinators have cleared the pedestrian morning traffic for the parade to begin.  The locals have come out to see what's so different about this parade, with a holiday they don't recognize or recall.  Behind my shades I see the necks snap back to see two blonde manes moving in cadence.  Their eyes lock onto the muscled belly that lifts the cart with ease.  Then their eyes follow the dark figure on the black cart.  A woman, corseted and in shrouded behind reflective frames, a smile and a occasional nod.  They are not my interest either.  I'm here for my amusement and that won't come until I'm off the cart.

"Giddy-up"  I loosen the reigns to give the horses the room the need to move into a prance.  Their shoes click loudly on the concrete and one of the animals snorts and chortles.  I pop my quirt just above their ears and hear the animals grunt with a desire that their flesh understands.

"Good boys, cmon take me home."  Their legs start clopping into a pace that takes the two separate legs and unifies the sound into one animal prancing gingerly.  I close my eyes and listen to the rhythm, reminding myself of the rhythm of using their bodies will sound and feel like later, under a desert Palm.

The parade finishes twenty minutes after it began and the horses are thirsty from the 2 km walk.  I've pumped their legs and now they sweats from the chastity harnesses and I see upon my dismount from the cart, that their cocks are straining against the gates of hell they are locked into.

"My pets have been very good this morning.  Are you ready for a little release?"  Their heads bobbed in unison and my quirt pops each one of their bellies, careful to let the tip of my leather find their cock heads.  I pull the reigns forward and move my animals to the shade.  A stable girl has water and carrots for the animals.

"Don't over feed them, they still have mating duties this afternoon."

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Okay that's it.  You know the rest is some great gay animal fucking scene, that you can create in your head!