Wednesday, April 20, 2011

When did you awaken to kink?

Dear Gentle Kinkster:

I've just spent a few days with Sexologist, Sex Positive Academics, Therapists, Doctors and Practitioners and they got me to thinking about the first time we all began to connect with kink and sex. As it's beyond the basic desires for pleasure that comes from our genitals.  What a treat and it's free!

I bet you remember your first time.  Because we kinksters are like that.  We are more physically, sensually, sexually aware.  It's our gift if you will.

I definitely remember when I became awakened.   I was five years old and I lived on the island of Okinawa. The boondocks held many treasures hidden in them between the typhoons and the daily, brief, downpours.  I loved exploring them on my own.


One afternoon I came upon a large cinder block room.  It had the openings for doors and windows, but held none.  Inside the simple empty room were two rings mounted on the floor, and one each on the ceiling and each of the walls about a foot above my head.  I peered into the room from the doorway, carefully listening for the sound of adults ready to pounce upon me. But all I could hear was the sound of my heart beat quickening and the blood rushing to my ears.  I could feel the flush of blood coursing to the surface of my skin and a throbbing ache to my lower torso.

It started to rain again, and I knew I needed take shelter so I stepped up into the empty room.  As I looked to the right and left of the room, I saw images of beautifully painted naked women tied up in various positions with the rope.  They were red and black calligraphy strokes truly made by artists hands.   The beauty of the images held my attention throughout the storm in this little room was dedicated to the art of Shibari.  A place out in the wilderness for beauty, sex, bondage and the environment to exist together.

When the rain passed, I jumped onto my bike and headed home for dinner.  The images firmly planted into my mind and my warmer body.  And I was ravenous!  I recall the taste of food was more alive in my mouth and I asked for more vegetables for the first time in my young life.  My taste buds were alive and craved satiation.

When bath time came, I found the warm water stimulated the continuing ache in my loins and then upon touch discovered my labia for the first time.  The response to my touch sent bolts of pleasurable throbs through my legs and chest.  And a sweet pain of ache.

Now hold on, right there.  You think you are heading for the masturbatory big finish, but this is not your average porn writer, this is Serene your kinky to the bone, Sin Like You Mean It kinda writer.   So now comes the interesting part of the story:

Baby Dildo

I realized this was all new territory and it never occurred to me there were holes in my body and no means for me to explore them.  With the assistance of gravity, my mother's vanity full of bobby pins,  I began to discover what lies within.  The bobby pins held my little labia lips in place with just the slightest tweak of pain and pleasure.  And low and behold there were three holes not just two and one of them when stimulated, created a most wondrous and pleasurable sensation.   It was like discovering you like the taste of broccoli and ate it all up.  And then I remembered the Japanese bondage room, where pleasure, beauty and bondage all came together.  And my little fingers found their way to combining the visual memory of the earlier stimulus with the ability to create a briefly sustained orgasmic experience.  I was hooked, cementing sex, with beauty, sound and feel of water and the ache of the sweet pain.

Now what's your story?  You know you have one and I want to hear them.  You can tell me privately on niteflirt, or be braver and cheaper and write it here for all of us to enjoy.

Tuesday, April 19, 2011

Keep Fighting

With all the wonderful display of feminine leather pride this weekend, I was struck by the last woman I got to speak with and take this photo.  Jocelyn Elders former Surgeon General of the US, she said, "Keep Fighting for your rights"  And I will.

Friday, April 15, 2011

Simultaneous Input

Hello Gentle Kinkster:

Travel season has started for me and I'm in San Francisco at two simultaneous conferences:

and

Both are must attend events so I'm going to sleep when I get back to LA on Monday.   I'm looking forward to workshops like:

  1. Sexuality and the Spheres of Ignorance
  2. Avoiding a Training Safeword
  3. High Heels and Bad Behavior
  4. Women's Perspective of BDSM Power Exchange
  5. Queering Pornography
  6. What Do We Do Now?  The Artist's Way
  7. Creating an Erotic City
  8. Sex!
  9. Orgasm Inc.
  10. Cogito Ergo Thud
(I'll let you guess which ones are Kinky Lay People and which are Professional Kinky People)

Really looking forward to the Speed Tricking on Friday night and let's see how good my pheromones and nose are working.  The really big show is Saturday night followed by hands on clinical training of and by professionals at the Citadel.

Beautiful, smart, sexy, open minded people.  It must be San Francisco, cuz I'm sure not in Texas any more!

Tuesday, April 12, 2011

Empathy anyone

Keep Going - the purpose of life  is a video worth watching.

Hello Gentle Kinksters:

I'm grateful to find you here:  Smart, articulate, readers who like a little spice in their bedrooms and lives.   I'll admit I'm a learning junkie and I'll drop cool nuggets as I find them.

I've seen furniture made of collapsible cardboard and so many reminders of the beauty in nature and science that we still have no understanding of.  Wimp is my favorite visual source, followed by TED then  RSA, then Stumble Upon

Isn't it odd that we can make it to space, but not understanding our own bodies yet.  Science is doing a wonderful job though of catching us up quick.

I'm off to a Sexuality in Science Conference in San Francisco this week and then off to IMSL for the "Big Show" on the women's titleholder circuit.  Circuit is a bit of a stretch, but the representation of what fully realized women look and act like in America.

Wednesday, April 6, 2011

Dyke Day Fundraiser

 I'm tickled and horny thinking about the Dykes I'll be meeting at their upcoming fundraiser event.  

I am demonstrating Fire Play. 

Come by and sample the hot, sensual fun. 

Monday, April 4, 2011

How to Find A Dominate Woman





Are you the Man (or Woman) in Charge all day long?  When do you get to relax and let decisions be made for your pleasure?   Have you thought about having a relationship that allows you to relax and be comfortable in your creative, non-aggressive, relaxed style at home and in the bedroom?  Finding a Dominant Woman who is comfortable in her decision-making and style will allow you to find that balance.

“How To Find A Dominant Woman” will help you find a woman who shares the same interest in relationship role reversing.

Understanding the intimacy dance when roles change can be fulfilling mentally, emotionally and sexually.  This workshop will help you have more success in meeting, approaching and partnering with the right Dominant Woman for you.

The workshop covers the following topics:
*The Archetype she is seeking
*Knowing the difference between a Dominant Woman and a Bitch
*Who pays for what?
*Learn what a Dominant Woman is looking for in a partner
*Lifestyle vs. Professional Dominant Women
*Taking care of Hers and your needs

**All Attendees get a free headshot for your improved profile.**

COST:  $40, Buffet lunch is included. Workshop is limited to 40 participants

DATE:  May 29, 2011 Lunch begins at 1:00pm, Class at 2:00-4:00 pm

LOCATION:  TBD

Tickets at www.serenesin.com

Californians Time to Take Action


Our BDSM communities could be adversely impacted by a well-intentioned, but overly broad, piece of proposed criminal legislation that has been introduced by Senator Christine Kehoe in the California Senate. NCSF is asking all of you to sign and send to NCSF letters (a draft is attached below) that we can introduce if necessary at a hearing likely to be held in April, 2011.
The purpose of the bill, SB 430, is to permit effective prosecution of strangulation or suffocation "in domestic violence, sexual assault, child abuse and elder abuse cases." But the bill's application could go far beyond those situations and result in felony prosecutions for use of hoods, gags and the like in BDSM play. There would be no requirement of "an intent to kill or injure," or of "visible injuries," and there is no mention of consent as a defense.
NCSF has been in touch with Senator Kehoe's staff, which has seemed sympathetic, and has proposed modifications of the bill's language that would address our concerns. Now we need to follow up by presenting at the hearing as many letters as possible that support the goal of prosecuting domestic violence, but only if language is inserted that protects our communities.
We urge you to sign the attached letter, modified as you see fit, and send it back to NCSF:
National Coalition for Sexual Freedom
822 Guilford Avenue, Box 127
Baltimore, MD 21202-3707
Re: SB 430 (Kehoe) Strangulation
Dear NCSF:
I fully support the worthy goal of Senator Kehoe's proposed legislation, to ensure that strangulation and suffocation can be effectively prosecuted in cases of domestic violence, sexual assault, child abuse and elder abuse. But I am very concerned that SB 430 as now worded might be used to prosecute elements of non-harmful, consensual BDSM (Bondage, Domination/submission, Sadomasochism) activity between adults, such as the use of gags or hoods. This could subject millions of tax paying, law-abiding Americans to criminal prosecution, merely for engaging in erotic, mutually pleasurable conduct.
Therefore I and thousands of other Californians would be able to support this otherwise valuable legislation only if it is modified by specifically excluding non-assault activities.
I join you in urging Senator Kehoe to incorporate in this bill the language NCSF has proposed.
Sincerely,
Your Name
Your Address (with ZIP CODE)
Date
Link: NCSF

Education Paradigm Shift

Isn't cool when you learn something cool new and amazing?  I love learning and love sharing it.  Here's my  daily dose of inspiration:

Why we need an Education Paradigm Shift


And then check out  the upcoming classes at www.serenesin.com:

How to Find A Dominant Woman - May 1, Culver City, CA
Kinky Speed Dating - Domme/sub - May 8th, 2011 Culver City, CA